Overcoming the Feeling of Being Stuck

Understanding the Struggle

Feeling stuck? You are not alone. Many people experience this sensation. It can be overwhelming to have numerous ideas and goals yet feel paralyzed by them. I often find myself in this situation. If I think about it, I can identify several reasons for my feelings. These include my recent ADHD diagnosis, being the only daughter among brothers, and various life events. While I can easily list these factors, I often struggle to take action.

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Knowing ≠ Doing

I know I am not alone in this feeling. Sometimes, it’s not just tasks that weigh us down. It could be the heaviness of the world or even the weather.

I have many "tools" to help when feeling stuck. I understand DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) skills and narrative therapy journal prompts. I also know that mindfully moving my body—raising my heart rate for 20-30 minutes daily—can boost motivation. Yet, when I feel frozen about what I need to do, even the things I should do become a challenge. It’s surprising, but it’s true.

Do the Thing

Another therapist might take this opportunity to share tools learned in grad school or methods that have helped clients. They might say, "Fill your mental toolbox!" But here, you are stuck (yes, that’s a callback to humor) with me.

What will I write about? It may not be deeply insightful or revolutionary. It’s simple: do the thing.

Do the thing badly, half-heartedly, or even with frustration. You can do it while repeating, "I do not want to be doing this." You might even do it in a chaotic way (my favorite). Set a timer and commit to doing the thing for just three minutes.

No matter how you approach it, doing the thing—even in a less-than-perfect manner—is usually better than not doing it at all. Often, once you start doing one thing, it leads to another. You might find yourself in a cycle of productivity, much like the saying about a mouse and a cookie.

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Starting: The Key to Movement

I've noticed that when I feel frozen, it often relates to starting the task—no matter how small—rather than completing it. Allowing myself to do the task imperfectly often helps melt away the freeze.

Once I begin to thaw, it becomes easier to turn off that timer after three minutes and continue with the task. I can settle into the activity I started with reluctance and allow myself to enjoy the process.

Cheers to doing the things that help us feel good, even when we don’t feel good doing them.

Embracing Imperfection

It’s essential to recognize that perfection is not the goal. Embracing imperfection can lead to growth and progress. When we allow ourselves to be less than perfect, we open the door to creativity and exploration.

The Power of Small Steps

Taking small steps can lead to significant changes. Each small action contributes to a larger goal. Celebrate these small victories. They matter.

Finding Your Motivation

What motivates you? Is it a personal goal, a desire to help others, or something else? Identifying your motivation can help you push through feelings of being stuck.

Seeking Support

Sometimes, we need support from others. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or professionals. Sharing your feelings can lighten the load.

The Importance of Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone experiences moments of feeling stuck. Practice self-compassion and remind yourself that it’s okay to struggle.

Conclusion: Moving Forward

In conclusion, feeling stuck is a common experience. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and take action, even if it’s imperfect. Remember, doing something is often better than doing nothing.

Disclaimer: As always, this post is for general reflection and inspiration and is not therapy. If you are feeling stuck or overwhelmed and need professional support, you are welcome to reach out to me for therapy.